2.06.2013

Chore/Daily/Behavior Charts pt. 2

MORE CHARTS! I love charts!
Alex graduated from his last charts. Meaning: due to the simplistic way his daily chart was written, he started to manipulate it to suit his needs. (i.e. he would clean ONE meal of dishes and feel he deserved a sticker for the day, would pick up his toys ONCE, and would forget to be kind to other people besides our cat, Kali.) He's an interesting child...
I think he can handle a more detailed daily chart (and a simpler behavior chart). 
I've also added a list of manners that he needs to practice.

PS I used the same velcro stickers & chart as before, just put new strips of paper for the new tasks.

Changes made: Specific morning and nighttime tasks, a broader range of what he needs to pick up, rules about food & water (we've been having a hard time with finishing dinner...and I threw in water for good measure), I drew PEOPLE and a cat in the "be kind" section.

awesome = exceptional behavior for the day OR a big act of kindness, receives a treat.
good job = good behavior/average behavior, this is where his "A" starts every day.
calm down = beginning of a fit, i.e. tense, showing aggression, etc., 
equivalent to a warning. if he is in this stage, he has the option of reading a book, 
laying down on the couch until he's calm, or telling a funny joke. 
Sometimes I just tell him to laugh...and he does. That one always gets him! ;-)
(The goal is to try to stop this fit before it gets out of control.)
in trouble = blatant disregard for the rules or full-on fit throwing, refusing to calm down. 
He gets something taken away for the day, i.e. TV, LeapPad, favorite Nerf gun.
all done today = at this point, he's gotten "in trouble" more than three times and 
must go to bed anywhere from 1-2 hours early, absolutely NO tv, video games, etc. 
for rest of the day. (two weeks in and he has yet to get to this point! YAY!)


I've been seeing a lot of manners flash cards around Pinterest, and even though I loved them, flash cards don't hold Alex's attention. Since I love charts, I thought making a chart of manners and reciting them at the beginning of each day sounded like a great idea! AND IT IS! It's working, people!!! The most important thing that he's learned from this chart is telling the truth. He tells me the truth ALL THE TIME NOW!

Located in the kitchen. Daily chart is eye level for him.
 He is not allowed to touch any chart other than his daily chart.
Let me know how they work for you or what changes you made!!

3 comments:

Nana said...

Hello! I'm from Brazil. I'm using Google translator, sorry if there are many errors! :)

I am the mother of two boys and I'm having fun with the adventures of his ninja! I love your chart and I use here!

Thank you

Black Family and Co said...

Awesome!!! I am doing this with my 2 and 3 year old.
I found on pinterest on a manners game that we play at the table to learn table manners, working great and they LOVE it!!!

Becki Brown said...

I cannot wait to start this in my home! We have baby number 4 on the way and while our children are good for the most part, a more efficient way to punish the children is need, along with clear expectations for them! Thanks so much for your creative ideas!